These days when I turn on the shower to have a bath, I almost always whisper “Thank you, Jesus”. You might be wondering why but you see there was a time in my life when I couldn’t afford to live in a house with running water. As basic as it sounds, I was actually that broke.
I remember those days. I would cry many times because things didn’t seem to go according to plan. I would scroll through social media and see pictures of my ‘mates’ doing far better. I almost lost my mind. I was sad and bitter. That season felt like it would never end. Of course, the occasional ‘fine girl like you’ remarks from people didn’t make things any easier. I was called foolish for not using my good looks to my advantage. I was often derided for not being ‘sharp’. After all, the girls whose sugar daddies buy them houses and cars don’t have two heads. Besides, I’m not just pretty, I’m also smart (I know. Sugar babe goals, right😁😁) Hmmm…devil.
I said all that to say this: life is in seasons. No, I haven’t arrived yet but I’m much better than I used to be. I’ve learnt that in this thing called life my so-called ‘mates’ aren’t really my mates. We all have different lanes to take. This doesn’t mean you should be lackadaisical towards making progress. Yes, you should feel challenged when you see your contemporaries making waves but it should never make you feel behind. You are not behind. You are just in a phase of life.
Rather than grumble and wish away this difficult season, how about you make concrete plans and take decisive steps towards achieving your dreams.
Pace yourself. Understand that rushing and putting yourself under unnecessary pressure is only going to leave you frustrated and worn out. Think. Plan. Strategise. Slow down. Wait. Remember that time and seasons are in God’s hands. Give yourself a chance to grow. The beauty is not in the product but in the process.
Grace yourself. You are human. You will be tempted to compare yourself sometimes. You will feel confused sometimes. You will make mistakes. Disappointments will come. These are all part of the package. When you are tempted to get envious, remind yourself that your journey is different. When you make mistakes, learn from them and move on. You will only get stronger.
Remember: Tough times don’t last; tough people do.
Trust God. He has said that he will never leave you nor forsake you, and our God does not lie. He is faithful. Trust him through the process. He loves you and cares about your future. The best part, your life is in his hands. He will carry you. He will be the wind beneath your wings as you journey through this phase and every other phase of your life. He is your shield and your rock.
Listen, as I type this I can see all of the problems in my life that I can’t yet solve but I can also see everything that I have been through, and I know that I am here today because of Jesus. If he could bring me out of one of the hardest seasons of my life, the problems I face now don’t stand a chance.
Believe God. Believe what he has said. It might take a while but wait for it. If you’ve got Jesus, you’ve got hope.